Little things mean a lot in marriage. Recently, I did something as simple as lighting a candle in the kitchen. Marilyn saw it and said, “You lit the candle!” She was thankful because she knows that my cost-benefit analysis of burning scented candles falls on the side of not having candles.
These little things you do because you know your spouse likes them are often what keeps the marriage alive and keeps your spouse feeling loved. For me, Marilyn feels loved by me making coffee, blowing off the deck, taking her almond creamer out of the fridge and turning on the electric fireplace.
Ask yourself, what are the little things each day you can do to show your spouse that you are thinking of him/her? Doing these things will keep the candle burning😊
- Identify What Matters to Your Spouse: Take some time to think about the small actions that your spouse appreciates. It could be as simple as making their morning coffee or tidying up a space they value.
- Start a Habit: Pick one small thing that you can do regularly, like lighting a candle, and make it a habit. Doing this consistently shows your spouse that you’re thinking of them daily.
- Surprise Them: Occasionally, do something unexpected that you know will bring joy to your spouse. It doesn’t have to be big—something like preparing their favorite dessert or setting up a relaxing bath can make a significant impact.
- Communicate: Have a conversation with your spouse about the small things that make them feel loved. This opens opportunity to learn more about each other.
- Express Gratitude: When your spouse does something thoughtful for you, acknowledge it with gratitude. This positive expression encourages more of these loving actions in your relationship.
