Hurry and the Cost to Love in Marriage
In a fast-paced world, rushing can seem necessary to keep up with all the demands of life. However, when hurry becomes a habit, it can deeply impact the quality of our relationships—especially with those we care about most. Good love is not found in the midst of a rush; rather, it flourishes in the calm, in the moments where we intentionally pause and pay attention to one another.
I went out to leave for work and realized that my car had been running for the past 10 hours. My fast-paced 18-year-old son had borrowed my car the night before and ran inside without turning it off.
The  car being left on overnight is a perfect example of what can happen when we’re constantly rushing from task to task. We miss details. Just as hurried actions lead to forgotten keys, misplaced phones, and minor mistakes, it can also cause us to overlook the needs of our spouse. When we are too focused on what’s next, we forget to be present for what’s happening now.
Scripture teaches that “he who hurries errs in his ways,” and this applies to how we love. If we are always in a rush, we may fail to notice what would truly bless or support our spouse. We lose the ability to be fully attuned to their emotional needs or the simple gestures that build a strong, loving connection. Good love, on the other hand, is intentional. It involves taking the time to listen, observe, and act thoughtfully.
By slowing down, we give ourselves space to reflect on how we can bless our spouse each day. When we take time to focus on our partner, we are following the example of selfless love mentioned in Matthew 10:39—losing ourselves in service and kindness, which ultimately leads to deeper fulfillment.
Action Step for the Day:
Before you rush into the day’s activities, take five minutes each morning to think about your spouse. Reflect on what they might need or appreciate, and commit to doing one thing that will help or bless them. It could be as simple as a kind word, an act of service, or taking a moment to ask how they are really doing. Over time, these small gestures will create a deeper connection and demonstrate your love in meaningful ways.
