LOVE YOUR SPOUSE WELL TODAY: Practical Ways to Strengthen Your Marriage and Reflect Christ’s Love Daily
Each morning, take five minutes and ask God, “How can I love my spouse well today?” As you are praying, think about how your spouse is doing and what would be encouraging or helpful to them. Then, write down whatever comes to your mind and carry it out that day.
Try this for thirty days and see what impact it has on your marriage. I did it this morning and came up with three easy-to-implement ideas that will make Marilyn feel loved. I am going to pull out a scented candle and light it in the kitchen, buy almond-milk creamer, and bring her coffee to her when she wakes up in the morning.
Having a great marriage isn’t rocket science. It just takes stopping, thinking, and proactively loving. Couples that consistently try to show love to one another thrive. Those that get sucked into the busyness of life end up complacent, in crisis, or divorced.
Reflecting the Love of Christ
This daily act of love not only strengthens your marriage but also puts the love of Christ on display. In Galatians 6:9-10, Paul reminds us, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.” Your spouse is part of that “family” and your marriage is a primary space where Christ-like love can flourish.
By taking time to intentionally ask God how you can serve your spouse, you’re allowing God’s love to work through you. When you act on those ideas that come to mind—whether it’s a small gesture like bringing them coffee or a thoughtful gift—it becomes an opportunity to reflect Christ’s selfless, sacrificial love. These daily actions are an extension of the good we are called to do, especially to those closest to us.
Sowing Seeds of Love and Goodness
In the same way that farmers must faithfully sow seeds before reaping a harvest, we, too, are called to “sow” love, kindness, and care into our marriages. It might not always feel glamorous, but consistent, small acts of love can bring forth incredible growth in your relationship. Just as Galatians encourages us not to grow weary in doing good, there will be times when life feels hectic and it’s easy to neglect the little things. However, every time you choose to put your spouse’s needs before your own, you are sowing seeds of lasting love and faithfulness.
This kind of love—the one rooted in Christ’s example—is not dependent on reciprocation. It’s a reflection of the unconditional love Christ shows us daily. By showing love to your spouse “just because” and seeking to serve them, you’re participating in a reflection of the gospel itself. And as Paul promises, at the proper time, you will see the fruit of this labor, reaping a harvest of joy, peace, and deeper intimacy in your marriage.
ACTION ITEM:
As you ask God how to love your spouse today, consider how your actions can reflect Christ’s love. Keep Galatians 6:9-10 in mind, knowing that every small act of kindness and thoughtfulness sown in love will bear fruit in time. Pray for the strength not to grow weary and remember that your marriage is a ministry of love that mirrors the heart of God.
By viewing marriage as an opportunity to express God’s love, we can cultivate a deeper sense of purpose in the everyday actions that build and sustain the relationship.
Brad Rhoads is co-founder of Grace Marriage.
Brad Rhoads is co-founder of Grace Marriage.