In my office, a teenage girl once said, “If you are married and feel like you are lost, grab your husband’s hand and ask him to help you find yourself.” (May I add that you should grab your wife’s hand if you are lost, too.) She was wise beyond her years.
How many times do we feel lost? I often feel lost in my schedule of working, self-care, coaching volleyball, being a mom, being a wife, and making time for my relationship with God. Sometimes, it can be overwhelming. We get lost in other areas, too: our own negative thoughts, cycles of conflict, patterns of behaviors, hopelessness, overindulgence, escaping our reality, electronics, TV, politics, success, praise of others, comparison, hobbies, social media, and I could keep going.
As you read that, do you feel lost or trapped?
When I think of being lost or trapped, I imagine being alone and feeling responsible for finding my way. I believe, “Girl, you got yourself into this; it’s on you to fix it.” This is a faulty thought process to have in a marriage and as a Christian. This idea runs contrary to the Bible. However, if the enemy can isolate us, we drift further and become lost on a path we were never to venture.
If you feel this is where you are, let’s consider what the Bible has to say:
Proverbs 27:17 Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.
You are not alone and needing each other is OK.
Ecclesiastes 4:12 And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
Stand with your spouse and defend each other against the enemy.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.
Everyone needs encouragement to keep going.
Genesis 2:18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
God knew we would need each other and designed us for it.
Being lost creates panic and frustration, but it also takes work and dedication to look at a map and seek to find your way back to the right path. You do not have to live in the chaos of being lost. Your map to get to the right path is your Bible, and the way to guide you is prayer. The person riding shotgun with you also wants you to come back to that path.
This may be a humble moment for you, but if you feel lost, go home, take your wife or your husband’s hand, and ask them to help you find your way out.
God, please give us a humble heart and honest words to ask our spouse to help us come back to the right path, your will. Please give our spouse patience and wisdom to walk with us during this time. In your name, Amen.
