Why You Should NEVER Stop Dating Your Spouse…NO Exceptions

This episode of The Grace Marriage Podcast emphasizes the importance of dating in marriage, regardless of how long a couple has been together. Brad and Marilyn share their experience of making weekly date nights a non-negotiable part of their relationship for over 27 years. They discuss what qualifies as a “date,” the impact of distractions like cell phones, and the need for intentionality in planning quality time together. The conversation highlights how date nights strengthen marriages, model healthy relationships for children, and help couples stay connected even in challenging seasons.

Key Takeaways

• Dating is Essential: Outside of a relationship with Christ, dating is the most impactful practice for a strong marriage.
• Undistracted Time Matters: A date is about intentional, one-on-one time—without kids, other couples, or phones.
• Planning Helps: Spontaneity is nice, but planning dates in advance prevents decision fatigue and ensures follow-through.
• Mutual Enjoyment: Couples can alternate planning dates based on individual interests, ensuring both partners feel valued.
• Overcoming Barriers: Date nights don’t have to be expensive—trading babysitting with friends or simple outings can still be meaningful.
• Technology Detox: Phones are one of the biggest enemies of deep relationships; minimizing their use during dates fosters stronger connections.

Memorable Quote

“It’s okay to miss a kid’s event to make our marriage a priority. It’s actually good for them to see that.” — Marilyn Rhoads

Action Steps

1. Commit to a Weekly Date: Set a non-negotiable time to connect with your spouse, no matter how long you’ve been married.
2. Define What a Date Means: Ensure it’s intentional, distraction-free time—whether it’s a walk, a dinner, or a shared hobby.
3. Plan Ahead: Take turns planning dates that cater to each other’s interests to make the experience enjoyable for both.
4. Set Boundaries with Technology: Keep phones away during date nights to fully engage with one another.
5. Be Creative with Budget-Friendly Ideas: If finances are tight, swap babysitting with another couple or enjoy simple, cost-effective outings.

Want more practical insights? Listen to the full episode of The Grace Marriage Podcast and explore the show notes for helpful resources on building a healthy, grace-filled marriage.