🎙️Have you ever looked across the room at your spouse—the person you love—and silently wondered, “Why do we feel so far apart?”
You’re not fighting. You’re not planning to leave.
But something’s just…off.
If that sounds familiar, you’re in the right place. You’re not alone—and you’re not stuck. In this week’s episode of The Grace Marriage Podcast, Brad Rhoads sits down with Dave and Ashley Willis—international speakers, authors, and marriage experts—to bring clarity, encouragement, and a hopeful path forward.
This isn’t about fixing a broken marriage. It’s about waking up a tired one.
And it starts with this: There’s more for your marriage than what you’re currently experiencing.
1. Why So Many Christian Marriages Feel Disconnected
In the episode, Dave and Ashley share what thousands of couples have told them:
“We love each other—but something’s off. We’ve drifted.”
That quiet drift doesn’t happen overnight. It often comes from:
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The noise of life—work, parenting, schedules, screens
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Communication breakdowns—where conversations become transactional instead of transformational
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Unmet expectations—built on comparison and unspoken assumptions
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Neglecting emotional intimacy—when you stop checking in at a heart level
But here’s the good news: drifting doesn’t mean you’re doomed. It just means it’s time to wake up and fight for connection.
2. How to Reconnect and Rekindle Intimacy
You can breathe life back into your marriage starting today. Here’s how:
✅ Pause the pace. Life won’t slow down on its own—but you can choose to step away from the noise and give each other your full attention.
✅ Listen to understand, not to win. Kindness and curiosity change the whole tone of your conversations.
✅ Pursue each other again. Date, laugh, flirt, pray. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s pursuit.
✅ Talk about what matters. Go deeper than schedules and errands. Ask how your spouse’s heart is doing.
✅ Cover it all in grace. You will mess up. You will miss each other. Keep extending grace—just like Christ does for us.
As Ashley says, “You can’t drift into connection. You drift into disconnection. Connection is always intentional.”
Your marriage isn’t supposed to feel like roommates or business partners. It’s meant to reflect love, intimacy, joy, and grace.
You can get there again. And you’re not doing it alone.
3. You Were Made for More—Together
This episode is a wake-up call—not in fear, but in faith.
There’s more connection available. More joy. More intimacy. More purpose.
And it doesn’t come from trying harder. It comes from inviting Jesus into the middle of your relationship and saying, “We’re ready for more. Help us get there.”
No matter what season you’re in—whether newly married, raising kids, empty nesting, or navigating hurt—your marriage can grow.
God is not finished with your story. In fact, this might just be the chapter where things turn.
A Word to Church Leaders
To every pastor, elder, ministry leader, and church staff member: your marriage matters—more than you think.
In a world where families are under attack and marriages are breaking down, your intentionality with your own marriage speaks louder than your sermons.
It gives permission for others to prioritize their marriages, too.
If your marriage feels off, lean into this episode. Talk with your spouse. Be honest. Don’t settle for spiritual leadership at the expense of marital connection.
And if your marriage is in a healthy place, stay intentional. Keep pursuing each other. Your example shines.
Beyond your own marriage, consider how you can shepherd the couples in your church:
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Start a marriage enrichment group
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Share this podcast episode with your congregation
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Use it as a springboard for a sermon series or retreat
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Remind couples that feeling disconnected isn’t failure—it’s an invitation to reconnect with grace
When leaders invest in marriage, churches thrive.
When couples grow in grace, communities are transformed.
So step in. Speak up. And don’t be afraid to lead from a place of humility and growth.
Healthy marriages build healthy churches—and it starts with us.
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