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We’re all familiar with the phrase, “opposites attract.” And it’s easy to see this concept in action when we look at a couple who’s dating. Without ever considering that their differences might cause friction: one is an accountant, and one is an artist; one is quiet, and one is boisterous; one likes action movies, while the other prefers a comedy.

It’s interesting to be different while we’re dating. But why is it that we let our differences come between us when we get married? Here’s how to survive when opposites attract gets married.


“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” —
Ephesians 4:2

How to Survive When Opposites Attract Gets Married

Sometimes, we need to remind ourselves that there is not a right or wrong way to be…just different. Consider these opposites. Which one are you? Which one is your spouse?

  • Night person or morning person?
  • Early to every event or arriving a few minutes late in on time?
  • Introvert or extrovert?
  • Saver or spender?
  • Chatty Cathy or Contemplative Cameron?
  • Clean or messy?

Of course, taken to their extremes, some of these character traits can be disruptive to a healthy marriage. But let’s stop to ask ourselves, “Is this REALLY that big of a deal, or is my spouse just doing things differently than I would?”

In the midst of the trying times we all face, you may have noticed that you and your spouse don’t handle the stress of the situation the same way.

  • They might need a little extra time away from all the family “togetherness,” while you find it fun and invigorating.
  • A trip to the grocery store might make them anxious, while you have no problem completing that task.
  • One of you might have a huge to-do list of projects to accomplish during a stressful period, while the other sees it as the perfect time to catch up on all of the streaming movies you’ve been missing during busier times.

Grace Marriage Mission

Take a deep breath and ask yourself if you’re making a big deal out of something small. Then thank God for the differences He’s given to you and your spouse.


Brad Rhoads is co-founder of Grace Marriage.