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Something in marriage that’s often underestimated but holds immense power in our journey is humor. Laughter is a divine gift, and when shared in a marriage, it can become a secret sauce that adds flavor to even the most mundane days. It can be one of the ways to build joyful moments in marriage.

Proverbs 17:22 (NIV) says,

This verse teaches that humor is not just a pleasant addition to our marriage; it’s an essential element that breathes life into our relationship.  The image of dried bones is so descriptive of times when life has hit me hard. You know those times when you feel like if one more thing happens, you’ll crack?

Humor is a stress-buster. In the hustle and bustle of life, it’s easy to get bogged down by responsibilities, deadlines, and the weight of our everyday challenges. Yet, a shared joke or a witty comment can release tension like nothing else. It’s like a little reminder that, no matter what, we’re in this together and can find joy even during chaos.

Humor is an antidote to pride. It keeps us humble, reminding us not to take ourselves too seriously. When we can laugh at our quirks and mishaps, it fosters an environment of vulnerability and acceptance. In those moments of shared laughter, we can just be ourselves.

We had a water leak in the bathroom in our room recently. After the repairs and painting, we went shopping for wall décor.  Floral prints were boring, and I couldn’t find anything I liked.  On a whim, I joked that it would be funny to frame pictures of famous bathroom scenes from movies. My husband’s eyes lit up, and we had a plan!  Our Dumb & Dumber, Christmas Vacation, and Home Alone-themed bathroom has become my favorite room in our home.

To me, humor is a language of love. It brings happiness in our marriage. It’s a way to express affection, to say, “I see you, I understand you, and I cherish the uniqueness that is you.” Through jokes, playful banter, and shared moments of hilarity, we deepen our connection and create a sanctuary of joy within our marriage.

I’m thankful my husband isn’t embarrassed by my quirkiness but loves me because of it. In fact, he made a social media post about our new artwork with this caption, To say my wife is classy is like saying the sky is green, or we have three sons (we have three daughters) or I struggle with being too tall (Greg is vertically challenged). But all I can say is I’m so proud of how she’s decided to decorate our half bath. Now when friends come over, we get to hear them chuckle while they do their business. And YES!!! Elaine will laugh and get soooo excited for them to say, “May I use your restroom?”

Celebrate the joy, the silliness, and the delightful quirks that make your union unique. Let humor be your compass, guiding you through life’s ups and downs and reminding you of your beautiful life together.