“OK” is not OK. When alcoholics have been sober for a while, they tend to quit going to support meetings and calling their sponsor. This is the time they are most vulnerable; this is when they are most likely to relapse into drinking again.
Similarly, it’s not uncommon to see someone lose weight, become complacent after seeing results, stop the good habits they started, and gain most if not all of the weight back. It may be time to watch out as a spouse because the “We’re OK” mindset can ultimately lead to things that can destroy your marriage.
Things that destroy your marriage
In marriage, a “we are OK” attitude is dangerous. We have a very real, very powerful enemy that is trying to destroy your marriage. “Getting by” can quickly become “getting a divorce.”
The forces of evil and the pressures of the world always conspire to work against your relationship; they are not for your marriage.
You must keep watch and be sober-minded. Whether you are reading this and your marriage is struggling. Or, you’re reading this post and your marriage has never been stronger. If I had you sitting at my table with coffee, I’d tell you the same thing—keep watch. Be on guard for the enemy.
The enemy wants your marriage to fail. The world watches and waits for your marriage to fail. If he can’t get you both, he’ll seek to take down one individual. The old saying is true, marriage isn’t a 50-50 deal. Marriage is both spouses each giving 100+ percent to strengthen it.
What does being on guard in your marriage look like? It looks like:
- Regular pursuit.
- Regular investment.
- Regular communication.
- Regular sex.
All of it is necessary to protect your marriage, to name a few things. “OK” is not OK. Don’t settle for average in your relationship.
Protect and enliven your marriage with intentional investment, and in so doing, bring glory to the Creator and Sustainer of your marriage!
Grace Marriage Mission
Sometime this week, ask your spouse the questions:
- How are we doing?
- Where could I do better?
Communicating your feelings and any perceived problem areas is key to a healthy relationship, and will prevent the enemy from creating distance between the two of you. If it can be a blessing of grace in your marriage instead of another “to-do,” try to make weekly check-ins a habit!
Proverbs 1:32-33 > For the simple are killed by their turning away, and the complacency of fools destroys them; but whoever listens to me will dwell secure and will be at ease, without dread of disaster.
1 Corinthians 16:13-14 > Be alert, stand firm in the faith, be courageous, be strong. Do everything in love.
1 Peter 5:8 > Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.
Brad Rhoads is co-founder of Grace Marriage.